The Portugal Years: An Old-Fashioned Love Song

June 30, 1979

June 30, 1979

Today is the 35th anniversary of our wedding day. If you could hear me say it out loud, you would hear a bit of amazement in my voice that we’ve come this far. The smile on our faces is the relief we felt with the belief that we had arrived at a goal that Harry had hoped for when he was a freshman at Drexel University some six years earlier. Some of you are laughing at those youngsters as I am today. It was a long journey to get to this point, a journey that I began to blog about  in 2011.

No, we had not reached the goal; we had only begun the race. If you take two strong, stubborn and hard-headed people, put them in close proximity for 35 years, you can pretty well read their history in their faces, and in the way that they look at one another. Those youngsters in that photo were 26 years old when they got married. They thought they were mature. Yes, I hear you laughing again. We are still working on that. :D

Really though, living together  in holy matrimony has its good days and its rugged days; days when we are both ornery and obnoxious all at the same time. Then there are the incredibly wonderful days that remind us why we got married. As a friend of mine said to me, life is so daily. It takes Divine Intervention to get through it in one piece.

So, if I could, would I go back in time to tell that young woman what lay ahead for her? No. She would probably cut and run. In so doing, she would miss the sweetest moments that life would afford her.

So here is to Harry, the man who loves me no matter what page I’m on. Here is to being on different pages, because when we add up the information that way we don’t miss anything important. Here is to learning each other’s language and creating one of our own. And here is to hammering out our differences – as long as the hammer doesn’t land on someone’s head. :D

[You will need to click through to YouTube listen to this version of the song.]

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24 comments

  1. Kevin Spencer · ·

    Wow. Simply, wow.
    I would try and write something acknowledging the beautifully written wisdom here…but I suddenly seem to have something in my eye.

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    1. Thank you, Kevin. That means a lot to me.

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  2. Happy Anniversary, Susan! That’s simply awesome. It really is. And I bet you’ve grown much closer over the years. It’s great to see.

    I love that song–sorta!

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    1. Well, I see the song as one of the facets if a love relationships. There are some dark threads in that tapestry, and that song is one of the more colorful and bright threads. Pop songs often depict a love relationship as if it were all ice dream and cashews. Anyone who has ever been in a love relationship know that it is up and down, fun and painful. /philosophy

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      1. Yes, it’s dadblamery overall.

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        1. What meanest thou?

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          1. Umm…huh…it must be my vicious side coming through…

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            1. Ah, yes. I am familiar with that side. :)

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              1. Some say there isn’t another side.

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                1. Most everybody feels that way at times. Sort of a Bah! Humbug of relationships.

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                  1. And the professor knows the dadblamery of it! (I know all dadblameries.)

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                    1. That is quite evident. I am waiting for the professor’s book to come out.

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                  2. You mean life story book? *laughs*

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                    1. If you wish.

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  3. Congratulations! Here’s to the next 35! (Get in a huge stock of medicinal chocolate…) ;)

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    1. That sounds like a plan! Thanks FF. :D

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  4. Happy HAPPY Anniversary, you two! Who says we can’t stay together, grow closer, and appreciate and respect our partners more over time! I completely understand what you have written, as I am there too, with my DH, and he with me! :) Hugs, congratulations, and thank you for a beautiful entry!

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    1. Thank you, DR. I am glad you are there, too. It takes a lot of living, doesn’t it?

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      1. It really does. Things change so much, yet some things remain the same. Quite difficult to explain. Still, would not have it any other way!

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  5. Aww, Happy Anniversary! What an honest and wonderful tribute to your hubby! <3

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  6. Happy Anniversary!

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  7. How awesome is that! 35 years and there ate people who can’t look at each other for 35 minutes. What a blessing to stay commited.

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    1. That is the work of the Almighty, my friend. It sounds like a lot of years, and it definitely has been a lot of living. Thank you!

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